Prestigious Minds Blog

One of the things I have learned over time and through the training I have gone through is ones reality isn’t necessarily the same as others. What I mean is we each make a map and model of the world around us. It is this map/model we operate from as we go through the world.

As an example: Remember having seen something happen like an accident. Now here is the interesting thing, when others are asked about what they saw the answer is most likely different from person to person.

We each process things in our own way. Some of us rely mostly on, perhaps, our sense of sight while another the sense of what we hear. The point is we have a primary sensory channel as it were. That’s not to say we all use all our senses, it’s just to say we rely on one sense more then the others.

How could this information be helpful to understand?

The next time you are in a conversation or a situation with others notice how they are processing the world around them and begin to match the sensory channel they use. As you begin to match their reality you might find a new sense of understanding and connection with them. ( actually that’s exactly what happens )

Another way this information is helpful: Any time there seems to be some limitation you run into simply experience things differently. If you are relying on one sense over the other senses  switch senses. You might ask,”How does one do that?” If you were to just (in your mind) pop yourself out of your body and see things how others around you see or hear what others around you hear, you will come to a new understanding of what is going on. Ask yourself, “Is it how I experience the world that is limiting?” If it is. Using this technique you can gain new knowledge to overcome, adapt, and change the way you respond.

Be bold and step into another persons map and model of the world. Step out of your own map/model of the world. Gain new insights and understandings.

James

Thoughts forwarded to me.

Michael is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say.
When someone would ask him how he was doing, would reply, “If I were any better, I would be twins!”
He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Michael was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.
Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Michael, “I don’t get it! You can’t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?”
Michael replied, “Each morning I wake up and say to myself, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood of you can choose to be in a bad mood.
I choose to be in a good mood.
Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or … I can choose to learn from it.
Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or … I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.”
“Yeah, right, it’s not that easy, “I protested … “Yes, it is.” Michael said.
“Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood.
The bottom line: It’s your choice how you live your life.”
I reflected on what Michael said. Soon thereafter, I left the Tower Industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it.
Several years later, I heard the Michael was involved in a serious accident, falling some 60 feet from a communications tower.
After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Michael was released from the hospital with rods placed in his back.
I saw Michael about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, “If I were any better, I’d be twins. Wanna see my scars?”
I declined to see his wounds, but I did ask him what had gone through his mind as the accident took place.
“The first thing that went through my mind was the well-being of my soon to be born daughter,” Michael replied. “Then, as I lay on the ground, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or … I could choose to die. I chose to live.”
“Weren’t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?” I asked.
Michael continued, “… the paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I say the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared.
In their eyes, I read “he’s a dead man; I knew I needed to take action.”
“What did you do?” I asked.
“Well, there was a beg burly nurse shouting questions at me,” said Michael,
“She asked if I was allergic to anything”
“Yes, I replied” The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply I took a deep breath and yelled, “Gravity.”
Over their laughter, I told them, “I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead. “Michael lived, thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that every day we have the choice to live fully. Attitude, after all, is everything.
“Therefore do not worry about tomorrow; for tomorrow will worry about itself, each day has enough trouble of its own.” After all today is the tomorrow you worried about yesterday.
You have two choices now:
1. Do nothing and keep getting what you are already getting out of life.
2. Forward these thoughts to other people. You know the choice I made.

Enjoy each day, each breath and mostly … each and every friend.